Ever hear that phrase “If you change your thoughts, you change your world”? That right there is rewiring your brain in a nutshell.
It’s pretty crazy that it’s so normal for us to pick ourselves apart. We see ourselves negatively, buy into the beauty industry standards to look a certain way, to fit in, to be “pretty”. We are programmed from a young age to develop beauty standards that are according to the social norm.
When we don’t keep up with this norm, we feel really down and upset with ourselves. We pick our body apart because our jeans aren’t a size 2 or we have a small belly roll “pooch”. Maybe our thighs rub together when we walk and we are automatically calling ourselves “fat”.
I want to help you change this and go against the social norm. Build your own beauty standards and rewire your brain to have a positive self image. We were never meant to fit in a box anyway.
Let’s start here.
When you have a negative thought, I want you to catch yourself thinking these.
Think about what started them.
Is this a true thought? Is this factual? Why do I have this belief?
Maybe it was that little kid on the playground who pushed you down and called you chubby when you were little. Maybe it was a family member telling you “don’t eat too much or you’ll get fat”. Or maybe it was someone in high school telling you, “you’re so skinny, eat a cheeseburger”.
It can even be something not related to your weight. It can be that you got a question wrong in 6th grade when the teacher called on you (even though you never raised your hand) and the entire class laughed at you.
Now you’re afraid to speak up in fear you’ll be humiliated again.
These are all forms of shaming and being put down in one way or another. And trust me, there’s a lot more.
Chances are your thoughts are your opinions you formed based on emotion due to what someone once said to you or some traumatic event that happened.
So what can you do?
Start re-framing your thoughts to be positive EVEN IF you don’t believe them at the moment. Ya just gotta trust me on this one. Practice finding something you love about yourself or that you are grateful for EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Hey, I never said this would be easy.
Write yourself little sticky notes on your mirrors and walls. That’s a lot of sticky notes, I know.
These notes have a purpose though. They are going to serve as reminders especially when you’re feeling down on yourself.
These reminders can be as simple as
“I love my hair”. Instead of “I hate how frizzy and dull my hair is”
“I love my eyes”. Instead of “My eyes are so baggy and dark”
“I love my personality”. Instead of “People will never like me because I’m XYZ”
I have a great butt. (don’t laugh)
I’m intelligent!
I promise you that with practice, you will soon start to see yourself and the world around you differently.
The fact is, when we are unhappy with ourselves, we end up taking these emotions out on those around us and the people we see on social media.
“She’s lucky, she’s naturally pretty” “She’s so skinny and beautiful” “I wish I looked like her” or we have the hate mail putting those people down that we are jealous of.
People pick up on these vibes too. You can tell when you meet someone if they are super confident in themselves or if they have a chip on their shoulder.
When you do the inner work and give yourself some self lovin’, you are creating a life you love and deserve.
AND! Your fat loss journey will come to you much easier 💕